Married Life

Kyle and I are both 22 years old, and have been married for just over 4 months now. It sometimes feels crazy that we are so young and married, because it seems like people today don’t get married that young anymore. I still haven’t totally got used to the fact that I am married now, but it is slowly becoming normal. I still feel like a kid sometimes, so it is just so odd to me that I’m married.

My husband and I are the only people in our friend group that are married, so it was super weird at first because I felt like being the married ones we had to be more mature than everyone else. This kind of thinking was not good for me because it caused me to distance myself from a lot of my friends, and I started feeling depressed and lonely. It took me awhile to realize what was happening, and when I talked to Kyle about it I realized what I was doing and that the distance I felt from my friends was my own fault. I had to become more intentional about spending time with friends because life was getting busy and we didn’t see each other around as much. I had to realize that just because I was married now didn’t mean that I couldn’t hang out with my friends. It was just so different and I didn’t really know how to deal with this huge life change so I decided to just shut myself out from everything. Now I feel like I don’t need to say this because it’s obvious, but this is not what you should do.

Being married young is awesome, and crazy. I am still in college and I have one year left, but my husband graduated last year so he is done. Still being in college while living with someone who has already graduated can be difficult, and I often find myself lacking the motivation to actually do my work. I don’t know if that is because I have senioritis real bad, or what, but it can be very hard to find the motivation to do my work. Though I do love being married while still in school because I think it makes me feel accomplished in some weird way. I like that we got married so young, because now we have the rest of our lives together.

My parents also got married young, when they were 18 years old, and my mom always told me that getting married young is awesome because you get to grow up together. I am really excited to be married to Kyle while we are still young because we get to learn a lot together and grow up together, because we still feel like kids sometimes. While it is awesome to grow and learn together, it is also difficult because sometimes we have to relearn things together so it gets a little difficult. But I am going to be completely honest, there is no one else I would rather navigate through life with. Kyle is the absolute best husband in the world, and I love growing and learning with him all the time.

The longer we have been married the more fun we have together, and I’m just so excited to see what the future looks like for us. Being married young is both wonderful and difficult, but I love it so much. We are definitely not perfect people, but we try our hardest to love each other and it makes it all worth it. One piece of advice I would give to someone who is newly married, or about to get married is to prioritize your marriage, but don’t cut off your friends. Yes, your spouse is your best friend and your life, but it is so important to keep your friendships and not cut yourself off completely from the world. It is so easy to just stay home all the time and not go out anymore, but it needs to be important to socialize with others. Don’t isolate yourself!

Obviously I’m not an expert on marriage since I’ve only been married about four months, but I hope you’ll learn from some of my mistakes early on. Sometimes you just have to learn by making those same mistakes, but don’t give up because life goes on. I hope you enjoyed a little of what I had to say! If you ever have any questions or thoughts you want to share feel free to comment or respond anytime because I’d love to chat with you.

Now enjoy some pictures of Kyle and I over the last few months 🙂